DEAR ABBY: Six months ago, I met a man through a mutual friend. We've been inseparable since our first lunch date. A month later he said he had a "confession." I thought, "Wow, so do I ...!"
He told me he was still married. I thought, "What a relief, so am I!"
I recently finalized my divorce, but to this day, he is still married. He says he is having all kinds of problems with his wife. It has reached the point where I can't take it any longer. I've gotten involved in his mess, and it's driving me away from the man I love with all my heart.
I know I should have waited until his divorce was final, but he assured me that it would be over "soon." Well, that was four months ago. What should I do? -- DISENCHANTED IN DALLAS
DEAR DISENCHANTED: It's time to disengage. Four months could easily turn into four years -- or even decades. This relationship was conceived in dishonesty. As much as you may think you love him, he is not a free (or honorable) man. Run as if your life depended on it.