DEAR ABBY: A few months ago, my husband passed away. I have a little money, but not a lot.
My 40-year-old, twice-divorced daughter wants me to help her buy a house. She has never been able to manage her money. She told me that if I didn't give her $50,000 for the house, I could forget her visiting me or helping me in any way.
I offered to loan her $20,000 for the down payment, but she turned that down and demanded the larger sum as a gift.
Abby, I am 69 years old and must provide for myself, and $50,000 is a lot of money. What should I do? -- MARTHA IN SOUTHEASTERN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR MARTHA: If you give in to your daughter's blackmail now, she will undoubtedly find some excuse to get the rest of your money. And I wouldn't bet on her visiting and helping you once the money is gone.
Face it, Martha, your daughter is manipulative and cold-hearted. Refuse to finance her home. Save your money for your needs and comfort, and look to other family members and friends for companionship and assistance should you need it.